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Truth Is Difficult But Most Important

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Truth Is Difficult But Most Important | Wicked Wednesday

the truth

I believe in sunshine. I don’t mean that literally, like the rays of the sun.

Instead, I mean it in the sense of everything happening in the light. Nothing’s hidden or deliberately obscured in the shadows.

When I first asked Sinnjara to wear my collar, I told her I only had two real rules – honesty and transparency.

Whoever is careless with the truth in small matters cannot be trusted with important matters.

Albert Einstein

Of course, I have protocols that I want to be followed. Each protocol has their own meaning in my heart. But the two rules, they are the core of it all. In short, I believe in the truth. I want honesty, pure and unadulterated.

Just the other day, I shared an old quote with Serafina and Sinnjara. It was a favorite of my father’s. He always said, ‘The truth shall set you free.” I really believe that it does. Completely bare honest truth, nothing held back. The kind of M/s relationship I desire is about knowing all my slave’s thoughts and desires. Then occasionally using them for my own ends and means. With their consent, of course.

I repay their honesty and transparency in the same coin. The only thing I hide are the wicked plans my brain is hatching for kinky fuckery. Sometimes it’s better if a submissive doesn’t know all the specifics in advance.

the whole truth

Sometimes the truth is difficult. The thoughts we have aren’t always pretty. But when mistakes are made, and being human it’s inevitable that we ALL will make them, it’s important to me that we own them.


If we brush our problems under the carpet or sweep them out the door, they never are resolved. And that kind of thing tends to hang in the air, getting heavier and heavier over time, until their weight can no longer be borne.

Three things cannot be long hidden: the sun, the moon, and the truth.


At that point, there’s real trouble, and the recriminations can be worse still. Why didn’t you tell me? Why was this hidden? What else are you hiding? Those are the questions that often come to mind, And they can be destructive questions.

Sometimes, it’s all heavy enough to end good relationships. And, that’s especially true when we start mixing BDSM and polyamory in as part of the relationship’s structure. It’s so easy for submissives and slaves, who tend towards shyness anyway, to decide they don’t need to bother Master with a difficult truth. “Oh, Master has had such a tough day, he doesn’t need the additional burden right now,” or so they can tell themselves.

But that’s a very dangerous trap to fall into. Perhaps something important is forgotten, but more likely it’s not anything terribly significant. But, even seemingly insignificant things do matter, especially when a protocol isn’t followed and Master finds out.

nothing but the truth

It’s dangerous territory to enter, at least from my perspective, when we decide to put off the truth. Soon, enough inconvenient truths are forgotten, pushed under the proverbial rug.

When the rug accumulates enough of them, the “room” the relationship inhabits doesn’t have secure footing for anyone. Sweeping things under the carpet will eventually catch up to a person.

If you tell the truth, you don’t have to remember anything.

Mark Twain

Yes, it can be dangerous (or seem so) to be completely open with another person. It’s hard to drop all the masks and shells we wear. But to me, the dangers of failing to do so, are far far worse.

Editor’s Note – This post has been fully rewritten, revised, and edited for the Joy of Kink. It was originally posted at on October 25, 2014, titled ~ The difficult truth!

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Michael Samadhi

Michael Samadhi - Joy of Kink Editor - author, lifestyle dominant, sex blogger, sex educator, photographer, artist, pansexual, sapiosexual, polyamorist, audiophile, historian, pagan/Buddhist, former political activist, and community organizer. I tied up a girlfriend (consensually) the first time back in 1980, and it's been a hell of a ride ever since.

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